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05-11-2013 01:14 AM  6 years ago
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JPhillips

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Coping with the loss of a pet
Today, in utter despair and devastastion, my wife and I had to say goodbye to our beloved cat, JC. He was 12 years old and we'd had him since he was a kitten. He had been very sick for almost a month with several visits to the vet and over $1000 in vet bills to find out what his ailment was. It's been difficult seeing him like this the past few weeks, hoping for the best but preparing for the worst. He had a form of stomach cancer, oddly misshapen kidneys and a virtually nonexistent liver. He was always a big cat, not immensely overweight but about 19 lbs, today when we let him go, he weighed a little less than 13 lbs. He hadn't eaten in about a week, barely drank anything and just laid around the house all the time, pretty much in the same spot and that was definitely not like him. He was my best friend. He would hear me pulling into the garage or opening the door and he would meet and greet me everyday at the door with his happy to see me dance and meow. He slept with me on my side of the bed and wouldn't move until I would get up in the morning. He'd be up at or before the sound of my alarm but wouldn't leave the bedside until I actually got up and pet him and walked downstairs to feed him. If I sat on the couch or in the chair, he was right in my lap, every time. He was attached to my wife as well, but nothing like me and now I realize just how much I was attached to him as well. Even though he didn't feel good he would still sleep on the floor next to the bed on my side and I knew it was time when I got up this morning and he could barely wince a meow, albeit a weak one. When we were in the vets office on the table, he seemingly felt better, almost as if to tell me it was ok to let him go. I held him as he slipped away and I almost couldn't bring myself to let him go. It was, without a doubt, the most difficult decision I've ever had to make and it definitely wasn't an easy one. Suffice it to say, he's in a much better place and is no longer in pain. I know he will miss me as much as I miss him and life changes but must go on. We will meet again one day.

Sorry for the long post, had to write things down as I frequently do. I've spent the last 24 hours sobbing in solitude tending to a sick cat knowing the imminent decision needed to be made.
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05-11-2013 01:38 AM  6 years ago
2low

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My prayers go out to you.Got to have my cup of heli in the morning.
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05-11-2013 02:46 AM  6 years ago
E J Atchison

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So sorry for you loss. Being a cat lover myself and having lost a couple in the past few years I feel your pain. People probably think I am crazy but I keep pictures of my Shadow in my office, on my computer screen, etc. We have several cats and not one of them is like the ones we lost, but each has some traits that remind me of them. JC is in a better place now. He may send you a new friend as Shadow I believe did for me. My prayers go out to you.I'll admit I'm not a great pilot, but I can hover with the best of them.
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05-11-2013 02:48 AM  6 years ago
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Remember the good time and he will always be in your heart.RC- a life style not a hobby!
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05-11-2013 03:13 AM  6 years ago
Teeg

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Our family was in the same situation last summer. Just a few days before our scheduled summer vacation Paws, our fifteen year old kitty succumbed to failing kidneys. It was no surprise as Paws had been ill for quite some time, and we came to the realization that no amount of veterinary treatment would help our pet, and everything we were doing might be making her uncomfortable in her last days.

We wound up cancelling our trip and the four of us buried Paws; we had a whole service and everything. Probably the most miserable week of my life. The kids took it hard.

Knowing where you are at, I can honestly say that right now, today....this is as bad as it gets, but every day going forward becomes a bit easier. In time when you think of JC you will remember all of the things that made him a great cat, and you'll think less of the time when he was not doing so well, and somehow you will find yourself more at peace with the loss. These words might not mean much now but I promise you it gets better.

Tom
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05-11-2013 03:51 AM  6 years ago
niyot

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Sorry for your loss . Went through the same thing about 4 years ago with my rottweilerHood HeLi : RIP Roman
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05-11-2013 04:11 AM  6 years ago
Scott1115

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Sorry for your loss. Pets are a part of the family and are dearly missed. Google the rainbow bridge. Remember all the positive ways JC impacted your life and be grateful for his companionship.Compass 7HV, Trex 550E
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05-11-2013 04:42 AM  6 years ago
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Sorry for your loss.
Went through the same thing about 4 years ago with my rottweiler
Same here about 6 1/2 years ago. I still miss him.
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05-11-2013 05:59 AM  6 years ago
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Deepest healing Sympathies : Cat's are completly different than a dog :
Crushes the HEart and Soul when you have to let when go -

Just look at the blessing's for the time spent together -the gift that was provided -to you - the shared personality and the conversation's

How LARGE they make your Heart and Soul : The Bond or Binding of Human and Animal intellect

Cat's have natural discernment - only very few dogs' have it -and those are rare.

Take your time - HEAL UP - Use Cat Like Discernment in the next selection

My new one is such in Love she doesn't even bother to purr.

Waited - Looked - and Thru a Very Large Net Work - They delivered hand to hand with just shot fee's. She's a Bucket Bengal - That was rescue at age 5 week's do to a genetic flip.

She say's HI - Go looking

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05-11-2013 11:13 AM  6 years ago
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I know your pain JP, I lost my buddy boy "BooBa"last year to stomach cancer as well. I found him as a kitten starving and cold under a van, I took him home and he was the best cat ever. He knew what it was like to be hungry so he appreciated every bite. Its a hard to decide to put them down but you don't want them to be in pain. They live on in our memories.

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05-11-2013 11:59 AM  6 years ago
JPhillips

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He really was such a happy, great cat, he was purring right up until he let go. I wake up and find myself looking for him and making the sound with my mouth and tongue that I called him with; he would always, always respond to that sound with a meow.

Our youngest cat, Zipper, I think misses him too. He's walking around the house crying and meowing, he knows... I was so much more in love with JC than Zipper and I know it's a horrible thing to say, but JC was like no other cat, so lovable and happy, all he wanted was to be loved. Zipper is the quintessential cat, doesn't want anything to do with you unless he wants to.

Here's a picture of them, JC is the black one.

Picture of JC and my wife.

So sorry for everybody's losses too. Pets become family. Some people don't understand or say he was just a cat or just a pet and I feel sorry for the people that never find that love, happiness and companionship of a beloved member of their families.

My only regret is that my now 8 month old son will never know the best cat ever. It will get easier in time, I must take solice in knowing he's in a better place and is happy again and I can't wait to see that happy dance again.
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05-11-2013 12:05 PM  6 years ago
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JPhillips, I feel your loose. Really, I had a tom cat I dearly loved. I'd spend money on him to buy toys, and stuff and do with out myself. I loved him. And I'd only had him for about 5-6 years. He was born at the foot of my bed in a box. and stayed with me all the time. But one Saturday last year I let him out of the house. And that's the last time I saw him.

I still pray, and look for him. But!!!
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05-11-2013 01:17 PM  6 years ago
buburub

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Really sorry for your loss and I can really understand what your going through. Lost a Rottie a few years ago which was basically like losing a brother and my parents and I were devastated. I have since gotten married and have 2 dogs and would dread the day when I have to say goodbye. In my opinion they are not pets but rather angels sent to take care of us.
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05-11-2013 01:46 PM  6 years ago
Wayne Mann

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I am very sorry for your loss. We lost our favorite horse four weeks ago. My wife had had him since he was two. Sammy was 28 years old. It was a very depressing day. Last year we had to put down my Australian Shepard (Zena). She was 12 years old and we had her since she was ten weeks old and she was a great dog. We still miss her badly. We still have one Aussi left out of three. We lost another horse three years ago that was 30 years old. We have two cats also, one is 1.5 years old and my boy is 3 years old. Both were found as kittens in very hot nasty weather near death. I was never a cat person. They are both so loving...and moody. I know the day will come when I have to say goodbye to them and it makes me very sad to think about it, but when I am having a bad day (helicopters fault) I can hold one of them and life is great again. Find another special kitty to steal your heart away and just remember what a great life JC had because of you and your wife.

Wayne Mann
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05-12-2013 03:20 AM  6 years ago
Eury

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I wish I had a way to make you feel better. Maybe hearing another story will let you know that you're not alone.

I had to let my 13 year old dog go in February. I raised him from a puppy, and he is the best friend I can ever imagine having. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, and even though I logically know it was the right decision, I can't get over missing him and feeling guilty about letting him go.

Not a week goes by where I don't wake up crying from a dream about him, I can barely talk about it, and seeing pictures kills me. He was my best friend, I got him before I was married, before my son, and he was the one constant in my life. As a father and husband you always have to be the strong one, but to my Andy I didn't, he could be the strong one and would be my source of comfort. Now he's gone and I don't have my rock solid friend. It's lonely, the last 2.5 months have been the loneliest and saddest I can remember.

I'm sure it's going to get better. We will all move on, and the memories of our pets will be something we look back on fondly. Unfortunately when it's still so fresh it's tough to get through the day.

I hope things get better for all of us.
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05-12-2013 04:48 AM  6 years ago
James Allen

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Sorry for your loss. I went through the same thing a few years ago with my Boxer dog Winston. He was attached to my hip all the time.
He also had cancer. It was the toughest decision I have ever made to this point in my life.

It gets easier over time, but you will never forget them.
God bless
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05-12-2013 05:28 AM  6 years ago
CWALDO123

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So sorry for your loss...I think the reason that God made pets is to comfort us with all our problems since the only problems they have is being fed & loved. They bring joy into our lives because were the ones who have to go thru all the daily pains & sorrows and ups & downs in life. We come home from work after a bad day or nothing that has gone right and what do the do?...They meet you at the door with there tails wagging or meowing in your lap.I know you pet was a cat but I found this video for all the folks who have lost a dog but somehow I hope it comforts you as well.

NOTE....Have Tissue Ready

Watch at YouTube

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05-12-2013 12:30 PM  6 years ago
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As difficult as it was, the decision you and your wife made was the ultimate gift of compassion to JC. We've had a lot of cats over the years, but only one considered himself MY cat. It's been a year now...and I still get misty-eyed thinking of him.

I found this on the internet and it has helped me...I hope it helps you as well.

http://www.petloss.com/poems/maingrp/uwereher.htm

Steve
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05-12-2013 01:55 PM  6 years ago
GScott

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I can only imagine how hard the decision must have been. I don't want to think about life without my buddy Guinness.

He showed up in our yard starving and barely alive. We gave him food and water but since we were selling our house I told my wife not to get attached (she was the cat person). For a week I tried to find him a new home. At the same time I would come home from work and play with him. He would greet me with a meow and a flop, waiting to have his tummy rubbed. My heart sank when I came home one day and he wasn't waiting for me. I found him under the deck and it was at that point I knew I found him a home. Needless to say my wife wasn't happy to learn I had been playing with him and by then the bond had formed. That was 9 years ago and to this day he greets me at the door with a flop and follows me everywhere. The entire couch will be open but he will always lie right next to me. I can't imagine life without him and I only hope I will be strong enough to make the decision when the time comes.

That's him and his brother Bass (Guinness is the black cat ).
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05-12-2013 01:58 PM  6 years ago
rcmiket

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Sorry for your loss. Been a year since I lost my 15 year old Lab Sheba. She had a great life and gave so much joy to our family. The gaping "hole" will become easier to deal with over time. To this day I swear I see her here in the house. Time heals.

Take Care
Mike
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