Bay Village, OH
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For what its worth, I am also 22, but I am married. After dating for 5 years and 11months we have grown a great deal, considering the nearly six years of dating started in high school and lasted several changes and transitions.
Now first I am single, and dont plan on marriage any time soon (I'm 22) but what I dont understand is how the wife can get upset at the amount of money you spend on the hobby you love, especially if you earned that money. Now mind you, thats after taking care of financial responsiblities, but why should it be up to her how much you spend of your own money? Any woman that demands to have such a control over my finances certainly isnt with me because she loves me, its more of a power struggle. I've had a girl that questioned my spending so much on my hobby, but what business is it of hers. I treat all my women like queens and they get what they deserve, but where should the money be going instead?
I think that you answered your own questions when you mentioned that you're single. Women want respect and when we spend spend spend or call money made at work "ours" it breaks down the connection between the two of you. When you are married, it is not "your own Money" plain and simple. If she went out and spent all of the money between the two of you would you just smile and offer her a chance to do it again whenver she wishes? I bet you are perfectly content being the one who can spend as he pleases. If you do that, then all "your women" are not being treated like queens or getting what "they deserve" (as if one person can actually dictate what another person deserves.
as it has been said before, man up and talk to her about it.