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05-03-2005 07:02 PM  12 years agoPost 21
scotter

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One other thing to mention...

One other thing that I have found can help is if you communicate in advance what you've got in mind. If you want to go flying this weekend, put it on the calendar, or at least tell her (although writing it down on the calendar is much better). I know it doesn't seem like as much fun when you have to schedule it, but communicating beforehand, in my experience, works much better in that you both know what to expect. I get much more grief when I try to go to the field at the last minute and my wife was expecting that I would be around, even if we didn't have anything planned. If I put it on the calendar, I am also motivated to get other tasks,chores, etc out of the way so that I can really enjoy myself when I do get out.

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05-03-2005 07:14 PM  12 years agoPost 22
Jasper7

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Hi

For me it was golf that got in the way, I'd like to play on Sunday and at least once in the week. This could be four/five hours away and that caused arguements


What you have to remeber is that you maybe gone for 4 hours, but in reality its longer after you have got the car packed/unpacked. If you leave early the Wife has to get the kids ready for the day.

Now it's heli's, but I'm out all day on Sunday and I've not been maoned at. She's been fantastic about it.

I give her all the week nights to do what she wants, let her have the lie in on Saturday and sort the kids.

Promise to do things when your around and do them.

Agree you both need your own time away and have it balanced. If you have something coming up thats extra, then let her know in advance, but not keep harping on about it.

Also promise to do somthing when you get back with the Kids, to give the wife a break. I'll phone her up an hour or so before I leave and see how things are? If she had a bad time, get back early, it a browny point for later.

Phone her up and offer to take her out for Dinner when you get back, soften thing up.

As I said you both have to agree to seperate time, but you also have to understand that you maybe having a great time, but the good wife may not. So judge it on the phone before you get home and work it from there. Me I always promise to be back in time for Bingo.

Good luck

Steve
Wife 3 Kids, one need extra care.

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05-03-2005 08:34 PM  12 years agoPost 23
patriot21

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Man,
I tell you,,, you guys at runryder have been excellent....This sites helps you with anything......Thanks a bunch guys,,, its nice to have a pair of outside eyes looking in.....Its amazing how this heli addiction can take you if you don;t watch it... i couldn;t imagine what alcoholics or crack addicts go through when the fix isn;t there..

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05-03-2005 08:40 PM  12 years agoPost 24
RaptorExpress

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I waited until they grew up & left home.

Got my wife a weekend job.

Sorted

Just need a lottery win now, to buy more heli's

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05-03-2005 08:46 PM  12 years agoPost 25
marked23

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two stories about my Wife and Helis

I usually set aside one weekend day to fly and one weekend day to spend with the wife.

One time, I went flying on Saturday because she wanted to got to IKEA on Sunday. No prob. But Saturday night I left all my gear in the truck.

On Sunday morning, as we are getting ready to take the truck to IKEA, I unload the truck and start moving the gear inside. She comes downstairs and sees the gear and gets all pissed off at me.
"You said... !"
"How come you always... !"

When she was done dressing me down, I calmly explained that I was bringing the gear in, not taking it out. I gave her a big hug and explained that I'd be ready to go to IKEA in a few minutes.

That day, against my better judgement she talked me into buying $1k worth of book shelves. I have to admit, I have a fine looking library now.

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I built a Fury 90 last year and I'm just now starting to get it into the air. Going from a 30 to a 90 is quite a pucker-factor change. After a few lackluster trys, I was ready to sell the 90 and maybe get a 50. The 90 was downright scary. (I was also short on cash, being tax time, and that helped lubricate my decision to sell.)

So I priced the 90 and put on the internet. After about a month, I started seeing some interest. Then, I started getting cold feet about selling it. (maybe I didn't give it a proper attempt.) I talked about the decision to sell at length with my wife. While she doesn't have my fasination with these things, she understands that I do. After much discussion, she convinced me to keep the 90 and fly it... or crash it trying.

Last weekend, with the help of another club member, we got my Fury all tuned up and it is very nice. I did a few circuits and it was amazing. I didn't have to adjust the trims at all.

-Mark

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05-03-2005 08:46 PM  12 years agoPost 26
Jasper7

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RaptorExpress

That another 18 Years of Sim Practice for me then

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05-03-2005 08:52 PM  12 years agoPost 27
RaptorExpress

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Only problem Jasper7 is its harder to pick things up now.

Maybe buy the kids & the wife a heli & get them starting young.

But you will need a large wallet, or do a bank job

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05-03-2005 10:16 PM  12 years agoPost 28
Ted Toth

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when my son was 2 I took him to the field and gave my wife some
time to herself. I was flying mostly Planks back then, he would
crank the fuel pump for me and some of the other pilots would
watch him while I flew. At the end of the day when it was time to
remove the last bit of fuel from the tank he would ask do I crank
it the wrong way ..

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05-03-2005 10:39 PM  12 years agoPost 29
Rappy da Raptor

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Your Helis should be your family

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05-03-2005 10:53 PM  12 years agoPost 30
pcliftonjr

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what do you guys do to work things out....
I have a fly day, usually Saturday and my wife takes Sunday for herself. Sometimes I can squeeze in some flying during the week on my lunch hour. Sofar, it's working...

Paul

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05-04-2005 01:00 AM  12 years agoPost 31
Ltcol13gene

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Tell her to find a boyfriend

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05-04-2005 02:03 AM  12 years agoPost 32
Luckylandings

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Spend time with your kid while you can man. It will all change soon enough. Give it a few more years. I have been married 17 years and have 2 teen girls now. (Shotgun upgraded to Double Barrel).

They cant wait to get me out of the house now!!
They even help me load up my gear and bring me my keys!

But its all good.. Each one of them will show up and hang out at the field with me from time to time.

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05-04-2005 02:39 AM  12 years agoPost 33
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Edited by me.

Take Care,
Cheers, Patrick

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05-04-2005 12:03 PM  12 years agoPost 34
Zach Sparks

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05-04-2005 12:17 PM  12 years agoPost 35
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Legit Concerns

For me, flying is not a luxury, it is a necessity as it's the ONLY place I can block out everything else and actually relax. When I am hovering my F3C model, there is no room in my head for anything else and I get a clean mental start. My first wife never understood that......... nuff said.
When my daughter was younger, age 6-12 she went flying with me a considerable amount of the time. She had her "field toys," we'd bring the dog, and they would play all afternoon while I flew, fun for me and for her (and the dog), and free time for her mom. At about age 11, I started teaching her to fly and she got pretty good at it which lasted until she was about14. Fashion, the phone, sports, and boys entered the picture and her flying career was over.
Still, I wouldn't take anything for the time we spent together and the experiences we shared that were private, her mom had no part in them, just she and I. She's married now with a child, and both she and her husband have their own personal interests and shared common interests and the baby is involved in all of it. I like to think that that time helped shape her into the terrific wife and mom she is now.
Gordie

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05-04-2005 02:49 PM  12 years agoPost 36
ECalderon

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Hi:

Before I got married I went to fly saturdays and sundays all day long. After my marriage that was reduced to only saturdays. After the kids came (2 girls age 6 and 4) I now only fly on saturday mornings for about four hours when I can. I try to make it as often as I can but its not always possible.

When the girls have the sports activities at school they are on the weekend and it is very important for them for me to be there, so in such ocassion I don´t fly. I feel that especially with girls you have to be there for them when they need you when they are young. After when they are teenagers, you will naturaly have to spend less time with them because they will prefer to spend their time with friends and not with you.

Because of work I can´t give them much time because I arrive late and the only time available is on weekends. I just have accepted that fact and fly less than I would like. To do that it has to be clear that family is in first, second and third place and after that all the rest.

I have flying buddies that didn't undestand this and that fly a lot more than me, but they are divorced. I'm not saying this was the only cause of that, but it was one of them.

Keep always in mind its only a hobby.

Regards
Eduardo

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